Could it really be that simple?
Rut /rət/
noun
a long deep track made by the repeated passage of the wheels of vehicles.
a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change.
As explained by vocabulary.com, “A rut is a groove in the earth, like an indent caused by wheels.
If a rut is deep enough, you could get stuck in it, which may be why the word has another meaning.
It's also a boring routine that can be hard to break. If you’re stuck in a rut, you’ve been doing the same old thing for too long.”
In my own experience, getting out of a groove in the earth is so much easier than changing a habit or pattern of behavior that I’ve been doing for too long.
One of the patterns I’ve struggled with over the years is my evening routine.
It is a routine that involves a big, comfy chair, a television, a glass of wine or two, and more often than not, scrolling social media.
Although more challenging in the winter, it is a dull and unproductive pattern.
Disguised as relaxation, or entertainment, or even time with my husband, it is a RUT.
Not long ago when discussing it with a friend, who is also a coach, she offered a solution I had never even considered.
“Get rid of the chair.” she said so matter of factly that I can still feel the sting of her words.
WHAT?! Get rid of the chair?
Isn’t it amazing that often times someone else can see a path forward so easily when we can’t?
As if the solution to the problem is so obvious and simple.
As if the problem isn’t a problem at all.
Is it possible that the solution is that simple?
That the problem isn’t a problem at all?
Is it possible that the only problem is my limited perspective?
That’s one of the things I love about working with a coach.
A coach has the ability to see things differently. To provide a new perspective, introduce new possibilities, and help discover options to move forward to achieve goals and dreams.
My coach does all of those things and more.
She calls me on my own BS, and holds me accountable. She reminds me of my dreams and goals, and encourages me to be my best self.
Especially when my biggest obstacle is me and my own limiting beliefs.
Like when I try too hard to change behavior without even considering changing the conditions or circumstances that contribute to the behavior.
Maybe it is that simple.
As simple as getting rid of the chair.
If you too have a chair to get rid of, I can help.
As always, I’m here for you.
